Q–Help, I think my son is gay. He is 17 and has never really had many friends due to some social problems he has had since youth. He has finally developed some friendships with some kids in his theater classes that he hangs out with and one of them is gay and the other is a girl but says she is a boy trapped in a girls body. He tells me he is not gay when I ask him. I had to ask because my thoughts are most “straight” boys don’t hang out with gay people but he swears to me he is not. We are a very religious family and I know being gay is wrong, I also know we are to love and be tolerant of everyone so I go back and forth on this one. I, of course, don’t want my Son to be gay but I want him to be happy. Please help! Thanks, Grace
A–Well Grace, there are several different issues going on here that we could go off on a tangent about so I will try to stick to the facts. Since you don’t know for a fact whether or not your son is gay or not there is really nothing you can do at this point besides wait until he is ready to come clean or not. In all actuality, he might be straight and really just enjoying the company of having friends who accept him for who he is (straight or not.) We are all sinners and as believers, we need to cling to the fact that God covers us all over a multitude of sin. (1 Peter 4:8 8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.) This includes your son, you, me, the postman, etc.
Just keep loving your son and accepting him and his friends, just like Jesus did and trust that God loves you and your Son more than anything. Pray, pray like crazy, and throw yourself into scripture and try to get your Son to do the same thing. It is normal to want the best for our kids but sometimes you just have to be still for awhile. Blessings and stay strong.
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