So over the weekend we went to a popular destination in the area that we live. It was hot, too crowded, and over priced. I won’t name drop to be nice because maybe I was just in a bad mood. No, on second thought, it was hot, too crowded, and over-priced ($77 for a family of 4.) Just don’t go to the Dallas World Aquarium on the weekend is my best advice. I am not saying this to bash them, just to create the possible mood that my children might of been in for the situation below.
Dallas World Aquarium
We had family in town all weekend so my kids woke up early that day, went to church, went out to eat and piled into the car to go to downtown Dallas from the burbs where we live and spent the afternoon being pushed, pulled, corralled and bumped around the different levels of the aquarium. Anyone with a 4 and 5-yr-old knows that their mental and physical energy levels are only good for so long.
By the end of the day as we neared the bottom levels (you start at the top and work your way down to the bottom) there was some Mayan dancers that walked through and started to perform.
The dancing and music was pretty neat, I must say, and a good way to end the day. My 5-yr-old was standing in front of me watching the performance and right or wrong she said to me, “boo.” Keep in mind there was several people standing in front of us and to the side, no one behind as we were in the back.
It was very loud because of the drums and the performance so no one could hear what my daughter was saying except for me and the couple to the right of us. My daughter proceeded to “boo” the performers again. I IMMEDIATELY reprimanded her and let her know all the reasons we don’t act like that. I was embarrassed but more than that I was upset, “had I raised a daughter that would show such disrespect?”
Then to my dismay, I was MOM SHAMED! The woman standing to our right, was shaking her head and looking smugly at us. I could not believe it. This woman was in her twenties and standing there with what looked to be her young husband and a father figure. No kids. No sympathy.
It was clear she was not a mother, because someone with kids might understand or lend a sympathetic smile. I was so upset. Someone with kids would understand what it took to simply get the kids dressed, fed and out the door that morning. Someone with kids would understand that my child had already sat through church, lunch and a long ride where they behaved and it was time for a long over due nap. Someone with kids would understand all the times I took little fingers off the glass and picked up trash along the way that afternoon or uttered the words “no” within the last 120 minutes. Does this woman DARE shake her head at me?? Really? Seriously!?
Had she taken a child to a place like that before? Does she think that all children are well-behaved all the time? Who does she think she is anyway? Let’s pretend she has kids, great, she still doesn’t have a right to shake her head at us!
All of a sudden my first response was to protect my child. Was she wrong for booing? Oh yes, she was wrong but she was MY wrong! Don’t judge me, don’t judge us and don’t judge her. I wanted to protect her from this woman shaking her head at us. I hoped she didn’t see.
I shouldn’t of but I tried to ask the woman what her problem was but it was so loud and she wouldn’t look at me when I pointed at her and asked her what her deal was. I wanted to know what exactly she was shaking her head at. I wanted to ask her if she had kids.
I want to be there when she does and when she remembers all the times she mom shamed and shouldn’t of.
When I got home later that night, I calmed down, got over it and let it go. I wasn’t going to write this post for y’all but I thought it had some 3 valuable lessons to share.
- Let’s stop the Mom Shaming and stick together! Being a mom is hard! Heck being a WOMAN is hard!
- Show some sympathy towards other Moms (even if you are not a Mom.) You never know what that mom or child has gone through leading up to where you step into the picture (I know ours wasn’t that big of a deal, but some are!)
- Turn bad behavior into learning lessons for your child. I was able to talk to my daughter about how booing might make the performer feel and how we show respect to everyone no matter how we might feel.
We won’t be going back to the Dallas World Aquarium anytime soon but the flamingos were beautiful!
Do you have a mom shaming story? Please share below and let us know! Blessings all!
Why nowadays people are so judgmental :/ Probably one day when she will be a Mom she will need to face to situations like that and she will understand how you felt that day
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Kaity | With Kids and Coffee says
I always have to remind myself to take a reaaaaally deep breath whenever non-parents mom shame me. On one hand…I’m pretty sure I used to do the same thing when I was younger. When you don’t understand a situation, or don’t consciuosly act empathetically towards situations that you don’t understand…it results in exactly what happened to you. Whenever I’m mom shamed, I try to make a mental note to use the situation as a teachable moment with my kids. I can’t control what the other person does, but I can make sure the cycle doesn’t continue. I’m so sorry you had to deal with that, though. It’s never fun. 🙁
Jasmine Hewitt says
she’ll learn one day. I hate that “that” statement towards her is judgey, but it is what it is.until you have kids, you just don’t know
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Yes, I hated when people used to tell me before I had kids, “you’ll see one day.” But now I know what they mean! LOL
We definitely need to be more supportive and less judgmental.
We all need to support one another, especially little kids!