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Mom, Upcoming Surgery or Serious Illness? 5 Tips to Help Manage your Family

 

5 Tips to Help Manage your Family with Upcoming Surgery or Serious Illness

We all know that in most households (don’t bite my head off, I said “most”) Mom is responsible for scheduling the day-to-day events, driving the kids to and from various activities, housework, cooking, doctoring, planning and the list goes on and on. When mom is a little under the weather, Mom still performs all the usual mommy functions but have you ever thought about what happens when she is seriously under the weather? Surgery? Serious Illness? Hospitalization? Hopefully, you won’t have to ever think about things like this but for some families they have been or will be a reality.

I have had 5 surgeries since 2014 so for my family, this has become a reality. I have had to take time out of “family” when it is time to rest and recover. With proper planning, we have managed to get through these times and you can too! Here are 5 tips that will help you if you have an upcoming surgery or serious illness and need some help when it comes to managing the family.

Tip 1- It Takes a Village

We have all heard this expression but it is so true. You have to ask for help if you need it! My family is so blessed to have friends, neighbors and family who bring over meals and help with the kids during the times when I am recovering the first few days after surgery and truly can’t do these things. If you don’t ask or let people know what is going on with you, they won’t know what you need. I am very proud and don’t like to ask and usually don’t but since I am active in helping others, it comes back around when I am in need. Get involved if you are new to town or don’t have family in your local church or Mom groups in your town. There are plenty of ladies who would love to become friends with awesome YOU and be a part of your VILLAGE! It does take a Village, especially when something like this happens.

it takes a village mom

Tip 2- Be active in helping others

I brought up this point above! Be apart of your village. Get involved in your friends, neighbors and families lives. We all need help from time to time! I promise someone right now that you know needs something, they might not be asking, but they do! It really feels good, like soul good, when you help someone in need. Taking someone dinner, or even just asking what they need, offering to take their kids for an hour or two and the list goes on and on are all ways we can help out someone. It comes back around to you in your time of need, I promise!

Tip 3- Be a Planner

One thing that helps me when I know I am about to have surgery and be down for a bit is plan! I make a few dinners and freeze them so my family will have something to eat, plan out activities for the kids a week or two in advance so they are not going stir crazy and my husband isn’t banging his head into the wall wondering what to do with them and stock up on items at the store that I know my family will need in advance so we don’t run out of anything while I am down. Basically take care of everything in advance that I can think of so for my recovery time (whatever that is for you) I can truly rest and relax. Especially if you will be on pain meds and not 100% coherent some of the time you might want to think of writing down some of your routine out as well so your husband or whoever will be spending the days with the kids will know what the routine will be in your absence.  If you don’t have the Cozi App, you should seriously look into getting it!  You can input your schedules into the app and sync it with your husband, one and done!  Read about it here!  Get all the medications you will need filled and ready and the times you will need to take them wrote out and ready.

Tip 4- Rest and Recover

With a couple of my surgeries, I made the mistake of going back to work too fast, not resting, not taking care of myself and it cost me big time. I had a seizure and ended up in ICU for 5 days because of it, not good! One of the most important bits of advice I can offer you is take the time you need to rest and recover! Don’t overdo it! You might think you feel better, you might think you need to get up and clean or get up and play with the kids but you need to follow the doctors orders and you need to listen to your body! If you feel tired, you are. If you feel weak, you are! Listen to your body! Listen to your doctor! If you followed tip 1 then there should be plenty of people helping you clean the house or make dinner and if you followed tip 3 and planned ahead then there is nothing that you really need to do anyway besides relax! Catch up on your favorite shows, besides when else can you lay around in bed and watch TV?? NEVER! 🙂

Tip 5- Be prepared and informed!

This is so important as well! You are your own health advocate. Read up on what is going on with you. Is it a surgery? Health issue? Hospitalization? Whatever the case, be informed! Ask questions! Let your family know. Do you need a 2nd opinion? In one of my cases, I did and it was the best decision I ever made to change doctors and hospitals at one point the difference between having a suggested craniotomy  to a more simpler procedure! Your health is so important!  Information is power!  You will feel 100% better about what is going on with your body if you truly understand it and so will your family!

Have you ever heard the old saying, “If Mama ain’t well, no one is!” It’s true!

Stay well Mom! Until next time, keep up the juggle because it’s real!

Blessings,
The MAK Team

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Elizabeth Hurt
Mom/ CEO of Household | momalwaysknows.com@gmail.com |

The MOM behind Mom Always Knows. Inspired by a long line of other Moms who also always knew. I don‘t know everything by any means but what I don’t know, I can find out, that’s for sure! I am a super Mom, just like you, juggling everything life throws this way. I love God first and foremost, am happily married and am raising 2 beautiful and headstrong little girls ages 4 and 5 who will often be the inspirations of my blog. I work full-time and dedicate myself to this site in the moments between housework, work, family time and life.


I am passionate about all of the topics you’ll find on my blog but most of all being a Mom and everything to do with MOM.

17 replies
  1. Annemarie LeBlanc
    Annemarie LeBlanc says:

    There were times when I wished I would get sick just so I can see how this family of mine would do without me. Well, all that wishing came true and boy was I sorry I ever wished that. The house looked like it there were 72 million stray dogs and cats that lived in it. What a mess! Oh, and they were proud to announce that they survived on instant noodle cups.

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  2. Rebecca Swenor
    Rebecca Swenor says:

    These are all great tips for managing your family while you are ill or have an upcoming surgery. It is so important to plan ahead for anything. Resting while you are down is so important while you recover. The other family members should be aware of what you can and can’t to along with respecting that. Thanks for sharing these awesome tips.

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  3. Dawn McAlexander
    Dawn McAlexander says:

    I feel bad for you having to have all those surgeries. I know that when I hurt my ankle and surgery was considered, I was scared to death. Luckily it didn’t happen. You have some good tips for someone going under the knife, though.

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  4. Jeni
    Jeni says:

    The it takes a village statement is so true. No one person can do anything important alone. The more support you can rally around you, the easier things will be.

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  5. candy
    candy says:

    I have been on both sides needing help and giving help. I try to keep freezer meals on had just in case. I always feel good about giving help and doesn’t make me feel bad about asking for help.

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  6. Jennifer Van Huss
    Jennifer Van Huss says:

    I know how this feels!! I was in a car accident in November. The house fell apart! My husband tried his best, but he realized how much I actually did!! It was a good learning lesson!

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